Do you get so caught up in the daily list of to-dos and projects at work that another year goes by and you haven’t made any changes you want to make for yourself? You’re not alone. Coaching can help you recognize what you are perpetually putting off for later, help you make a plan to take action, and get the accountability and encouragement you need to make the changes you actually want for yourself.

Your beliefs about yourself (your mindset) will affect how you behave. Whether you take action or not, whether you try new things or not, whether you take risks and whether you take advantage of opportunities … or not.

How do you keep trying and not giving up on making the changes you want when they take time? It feels like you’re doing the things but nothing is working… yet. Here are some strategies to help yourself get reignited and restarted so you don’t give up on your dreams.

The secret to increasing joy in your life? Having more happiness? It’s stupid simple, but tough to follow through with. We get so busy getting stuck living for the weekend, or the big vacations. We think we need to grit our teeth and hustle through our days and weeks so that we can get to the next break, the next big event. As an adult, you have far more control over our own happiness than you think.

Feeling stuck in a job you hate but not sure what to do instead? Come to my free workshop February 6th 2025 from 12-1 pm PST. You will get help figuring out what you should do, how to protect your dreams from the ways your self-protection will try to stop you making change, and hear about how coaching can support your goals. No smarmy pressure or sales tactics.

You’re feeling guilty about the wrong thing when it comes to self-care. We are taught, especially as women, that we should be selfless and giving, allllllll the time. So of course the thought of taking time for ourselves feels ‘selfish’! But what actually happens to us when we constantly pour into others and don’t do our own self-care? Burn out. Stress. Overwhelm. Irritability. Sleep problems. Headaches. And eventually, serious health problems.

You say yes when you actually kind of don’t want to, or you don’t have time.

You feel responsible for how other people feel and making sure they feel better. 

You feel guilty for prioritizing yourself or your wants. 

You beat yourself up for the smallest mistakes or missteps.

You put other people’s needs and goals at the top of your to-do list.

When we feel anxious about doing social things, like leading a meeting, giving a presentation or training, or even going to an event with people we don’t really know, there is a great strategy that can help. The first step is to actually name what exactly you are scared will happen. We usually don’t put a specific label on our amorphous general fears of unknown situations.

Your brain’s job is to help you survive, not to thrive. And what is known is safer than the unknown, untried. So when you try to make a change, your brain will likely do all it can to keep you from trying something new. This is why your efforts to protect yourself are likely keeping you stuck, and you need to find a way to counteract this natural survival instinct.

The luxury of options can often lead to paralysis. When you feel stuck and miserable in life, but can’t seem to figure out what you should be doing, or how to find your purpose, the large number of things you could choose can be the exact reason you can’t choose.

New Year’s resolutions usually fail. Using habits helps. Being aware of your patterns and continuously intentional about building the life you actually want for yourself makes change happen. Making a plan to hold Quarterly New Year’s Eve check-ins for yourself is a fun way to harness the power of optimism and fresh starts throughout your year, not just once.