Your old mindset may be keeping you stuck

Do you know that you create unconscious truths and stories about your life and your opportunities that keep you stuck in a life that doesn't suit you?

We pick up our world view (mindset) based on our early environment. When you're no longer in that same environment or reliant on those caregivers, those beliefs and behaviors can actually hold you back and keep you stuck in a life that no longer fits you.

My mother "taught" me to play small, to not be too proud of myself, to not need anything from her, that my experiences and feelings weren't legit, or didn't happen, if they went against her wants and needs. I learned to try to get along and keep the peace at the expense of myself.

As an adult, this left me struggling to understand or value my own needs and feelings. Over performing and being a high-achiever to try to prove my worth, along with a slew of other beliefs about myself and how to be in the world that left me burnt out, stuck, frustrated and lost.

I knew I wanted something else for my life and career, but I could not for the life of me "figure out" what I SHOULD be doing. I got so sick of myself and being in my own head.

I thought I just needed to match my skills to my interests and find my dream career. Boom. Easy peasy.

Reader, it was not!

It took me years to realize the disconnect from myself, and the stories and mindset about myself and how to be "successful" in the world were the first pieces keeping me stuck.

😵‍💫 I had to learn to tune back in to the signals from my body about what I actually wanted and felt about people and situations.
🚩 To notice the signs that I was over-giving, over-functioning, putting other people's goals at the top of my to-do list at the expense of my own.
🤔 To start understanding my own values and goals for my life (not the ones other people put on me that were really their own projections of their own struggles and world view).

Now I help other people do the same. I help you stop feeling frustrated with yourself because you keep complaining about the same thing over and over and you’re sick of your own voice. I help you get to the bottom of what’s holding you back from doing what you want, and how to go after it.